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My night terrors tale: trying to cope

By Donna Galanti

Nightmares. My child has had them. I’ve had them. They filled my nights with dread from a child through my 20s. I wrote about these stark, violent dreams that affected me, here, and how I eventually conquered them.

As a mother you know instinctively how to soothe your child when he wakes terrified from demons that chase him in his sleep. You smooth his hair back, hold his trembling limbs in your arms, kiss his tears away, and tell him all is right in his world.

But there is something even scarier than this that I had never experienced with my child until now.

Night terrors.

Imagine…my son, home sick for the day with a low grade fever and cough, falls asleep mid-afternoon.

Then his murderous screams launch me upstairs to find him running wildly about with eyes wide. A grimace of deep fear is etched on his face as he runs from window to doorway and back again–searching for something. His unintelligible rantings crash over me as his terror fills me. He stretches his face, fingers and fist in his mouth, pulling his eyelids down. A zombie gone mad.

Finally words blast through his delirium. “No! No! I don’t want the world to end!”

“Joshua, it’s Mommy! What’s wrong?” I try to restrain him. He pulls away, panting fast.

“Where’s Mommy? Where?!”

He lurches from room to room. I rush after him down the stairs afraid he’ll hurt himself. He frantically looks out each window, garbling out his last words it seems before death takes him.

“The world is ending!”

His wild eyes dart back and forth. He falls to his knees, hugs the ground trying to survive, and staggers up again. Is his fever so high he is having a seizure?

“Help me!” He claws at me, pleading, and whirls away again seeking refuge from death’s door. He drops to the rug, thrashes about as his moans go on and on.

I can do nothing; only helplessly watch as my tortured child acts out his scene. Agonizing to witness.

This goes on for nearly ten minutes. Finally, he sits on the couch. “Where am I?”

“Home,” I whisper. I try not to cry. “I’m your Mommy. Do you know that?”

“Yes. My Mommy.”

He stares straight ahead, lays on my lap. Falls asleep again.

And then the screams start again.

After the second episode, I called his doctor. He reassured me this is normal, and just to keep an eye on it. I searched the Internet on night terrors and amazed to find so many families going through this.

What IS a night terror? Called sleep terrors too, it’s a disruption in your child’s sleep that can seem like a nightmare but is not and is far more dramatic. Your tadalafil child appears wide awake stricken by such fear they are inconsolable, no matter what you try. And they are in a deep sleep even though they appear wide awake!

Nightmare or night terror? What’s the difference?

Nightmare: happens in the later part of the night during REM sleep where dreaming occurs
Night terror: happens in the first 1-3 hours of sleep, during non-REM sleep like a sudden reaction of fear from the transition from one sleep phase to another
Nightmare: your child wakes up, can be comforted, and recalls the nightmare
Night terror: you child is not “awake”, cannot be comforted and does not remember the episode as they were in a deep sleep before they entered the dream stage and no images can be recalled

Physical signs of a night terror:

  • Screaming
  • Breathing fast
  • Sweating
  • Thrashing around
  • Acts scared

But I want to know WHY does this happen? It can occur if your child is:

  • Overtired
  • Ill
  • Stressed
  • Feverish
  • On medication

One theory is that night terrors occur because the part of your child’s brain that regulates sleep and waking is still maturing. They disappear on their own as the nervous system matures. And it can be genetic. Many kids who have night terrors have a relative who also experience them or sleepwalking. However, they are rare with only 1% to 6% of children having them.

So what can we do to cope with Night Terrors?:

  • Don’t try to wake your child, it may not work and may confuse them more and make it harder for them to settle down
  • Do follow them around to make sure they don’t hurt themselves
  • Wait it out as they will eventually settle down
  • If they continue or worsen talk to your doctor about a sleep specialist
  • One way may be to note your child’s time with his night terror, rouse him gently before that time to break him of the pattern, then let him go back to sleep
  • Most importantly, stay calm yourself

There’s no treatment for night terrors, but here’s how you can help prevent them.

  • reduce your child’s stress
  • stick to a bedtime routine that’s simple and relaxing
  • make sure your child gets enough rest
  • prevent your child from becoming overtired by staying up too late
  • don’t let them overheat in bed
  • eliminate TV right before bed
  • minimize stress

It’s very disturbing to watch your child go through this, unaware of their actions and fear. It’s one of those things in the universe I wish I didn’t know about. It thrusts a shaky hold on the foundation beneath my world of what is possible, and yet I am fascinated by the complexity of our brains. What else is there we can experience? I’m terrified and yearning to know all at the same time.

Have you ever experienced night terrors or your child? How did you cope?

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Filed Under: The Dark Side Tagged With: children, Freddie Kruger, Night Terrors, nightmares, REM, sleep specialist, sleep terrors

Comments

  1. Barbara Custer says

    January 25, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    Awesome post. This had to be really frightening for you. If he has any brothers or sisters, maybe they could help. I’m hoping he will feel better and outgrow the night terrors.

    • dgalanti says

      January 25, 2013 at 5:11 pm

      Hi Barbara, thanks for stopping! Yes, very scary…and just imagine so many folks go thru it. My son is an only child so only has his stuffed animals to comfort him. 🙂

  2. Mitzi Reinbold w/a Mitzi Flyte says

    January 25, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    Thank you so much for writing this. I had night terrors as a child and sixty years ago this type of information was not available. My parents did not react well to this problem.

    I hope your son never has to go through that again.

    Mitzi

    • dgalanti says

      January 25, 2013 at 8:51 pm

      Mitzi, I am truly sorry you had to go such a thing long ago before we had better information on it. Funny enough, when this occurred I thought my son might have been pulling a prank on me as he was SO over the top dramatic – or he was going mad. It was surreal. Your parents must have been beside themselves.

  3. Sarah Butland says

    January 27, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    Wow! I tremendously appreciate you sharing this with us though I wish you didn’t need to go through it for others to learn.

    I hope your son is sleeping better now.

    My son is only three so I have a while to go, nightmares are enough, my heart breaks for anyone who has to go through these circumstances.

    Thanks for reading,

    Sarah Butland
    author of Arm Farm, Sending You Sammy and Brain Tales – Volume One

    • dgalanti says

      January 28, 2013 at 5:03 am

      Sarah, I hope your son has only good dreams from now on and no night terrors. 🙂 I was woken up many times over the years from nightmares. They do lessen as they get older, I think as they learn how to process things better. For a long while our son was terrified of lightning and the house catching on fire and this fueled his nightmares. Enjoy your toddler years. They are precious!

  4. Catherine Stine says

    January 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    When I was little I had nightmares about fires and worms/snakes. As a young adult, I’d have dreams that the phone was ringing and I couldn’t find it to pick it up. Now, I don’t have night terrors, except for the occasional monstrous snores of the hubby!

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